Amy Valentini, Romance Author and Romancing Editorially Editor

A woman favored by God is not ordinary. She has been chosen and set apart by God, and guided by a force far greater than anyone can imagine.

To live is to know suffering. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either naïve or lying. But there’s something deeply profound about suffering because it’s the one thing that reveals the truth about who a person is.

A woman favored by God is not someone who has lived an easy life – quite the opposite. She’s the one who has walked through fire and come out stronger. She’s the one who has been tested by loss, rejection, and hardship yet refuses to be destroyed by it.

Most people when they face adversity collapse under the weight of it. They become bitter, and resentful, and look for someone else to blame. They let their pain define them. But the woman favored by God does something else entirely – she takes the suffering and turns it into something meaningful. There’s something inexplicable about a person who has endured immense struggle but hasn’t let it break them. They carry themselves differently. They speak with a kind of depth that can’t be faked. They have a presence that commands attention not because they seek it, but because their very existence radiates a defining strength and others notice this about them. Others might not always understand why, but they recognize it. They feel the weight of the battle she has fought and won, and are drawn to it. But make no mistake, this strength comes at a cost because the moment she rises above her suffering, she will find that not everyone will celebrate it. Some will envy it, some will resent it, and some will even go out of their way to challenge her to see if they can break her in ways that life couldn’t.

This is where the real test begins for her because it’s not just about surviving hardship – it’s about refusing to allow it to harden her. It’s about taking the pain and using it to acquire wisdom instead of holding resentment. It’s about seeing her suffering, not as a punishment but as a tool for transformation, and this is where most people fail. Most people let their suffering turn them into someone who becomes cynical, closed off, unwilling to trust, and unwilling to love, but a woman favored by God will do the opposite. She remains open to the world, not because she’s naïve, but because she understands that true power lies in vulnerability. She refuses to let the pain steal away her ability to feel compassion. She refuses to allow the cruelty of the world to make her cruel in return.

To remain kind in a world that has given her every reason not to be is her true strength. Her ability to continue believing in love after experiencing betrayal is true faith. To rise after every fall, to face every challenge with the knowledge that she has already endured the worst it can throw at her is true power. But the world will not always reward this – in fact, it will probably do the opposite. People will question her, misunderstand her, and wonder why she doesn’t carry the same bitter resentment that they do. They will mistake her resilience for arrogance. They will test her hoping to see her fall. But what they don’t understand is that she’s already been tested and won. Life has already put her through the worst of it, and she didn’t crumble under its weight. She no longer fears what the world can do to her because she’s already survived the worst of it.

There’s almost something terrifying about a person who has nothing left to fear. When someone has been thrown into a pit of darkness and has climbed out, they carry an unshakeable confidence – a confidence of someone who knows exactly who they are and what they are capable of, and this is the mark of someone truly favored by God. He doesn’t grant favor to the weak, to the complacent, or to those who refuse to grow, only to those who have proven they’re capable of carrying the weight of it. Favor is not just about blessings, it is about responsibility, and not everyone is willing to bear that burden.

There’s something about a woman favored by God that people notice. It’s not just the way she looks or speaks – it’s far deeper than that. It’s the way she carries herself. It’s how she moves through the world with a presence that repels some and attracts others like a magnet. It’s not that she is trying to impress others or be something she’s not – it’s because she’s different. She stands apart from the world. But because she is different, people are either extraordinarily drawn to her or irrationally opposed to her. There is rarely a middle ground and that’s what makes it hard for her because like most people, she wants to be liked, to fit in, to be accepted, and understood. But a woman favored by God does not walk an easy path.

A woman favored by God does not mistake charm for character but recognizes what lies beneath. She does not let words distract her from other’s actions, but sees the truth. She has seen people say all the right things while doing the exact opposite in their actions. So she listens carefully, and hears not just what people say, but what they don’t say. She pays attention to how someone acts when no one is watching. She notices how their energy shifts when they believe no one is observing them. This is where she succeeds where others fail. She doesn’t ignore her instincts and the warnings in favor of a need for approval. She has learned that her intuition isn’t just a whisper in her mind but a gift designed to keep her from the harm others might attempt to inflict on her. She has learned that if she explains away the discomfort she feels around someone, she has already betrayed herself. But this wisdom comes at a cost because when she sees others clearly, she discovers not everyone wants to be seen. There are people who need her to be blind so that they might manipulate her. They want her to doubt herself so they can maintain control of her. But when a person realizes she has seen them for who they are, she will be called difficult or even arrogant. She will be abandoned because others can’t handle the weight of her awareness regarding them. But she does not grieve this, but embraces it because each person who walks away wasn’t meant to walk with her at all. She quickly learns that the people who do belong in her life will not be threatened by her insight, but will value her and grow with her. They will not diminish her strength so as to feel more comfortable in her presence. She never apologizes for seeing what others miss, nor does she diminish her character to make others feel more at ease. She does not ignore her inner voice which has saved her time and time again because she knows that her intuition is not just a part of her, but a divine gift from God and she has learned to trust it even when the rest of the world tells her she shouldn’t.

A woman favored by God does not live a life of ease. On the contrary, she has not been sheltered from hardship nor has she been handed her blessings without trials. She has been tested again, and again, and knows she will continue to be in the future. She has faced obstacles that would break most people, challenges that have forced her to confront her deepest fears, and moments that made her question everything she knew about herself, yet she does not fall. Oh, she has stumbled at times, she has doubted herself, and even cried out in frustration, but she didn’t break. She faced every trial with perseverance and was forged into something stronger, something resilient and unshakeable – something the storms of life will never destroy. But never underestimate her because her she wasn’t simply born this way, but built through suffering, disappointment, betrayal, and by walking paths that others feared to take. She does not crumble under pressure or fall apart when things get hard or don’t go her way. She learned that trials are not punishments, but God’s way of preparing her for something greater.

Some will look at a woman favored by God and presume she’s always had it easy. They will see her confidence, her strength, her resilience, and her ability to navigate life with wisdom and grace and believe that she was always like this. But what they don’t know is the silent battles she has fought, the doubt she wrestled with, and the times she wanted to give up, but refused to do so. They can’t see the moments she had to rebuild herself from nothing, or the sacrifices she made. They don’t see the times she chose to grow rather than stay comfortable, and the times she had to harden her heart to survive.

A woman favored by God has endured trials and has been refined by fire. She no longer reacts to life the way others do. She doesn’t waste her time proving her worth to those who cannot see it because she knows who she is. She knows what she has overcome, and what she is capable of, and no amount of external validation or rejection can change that. This terrifies people. Most of the world is driven by insecurity and most people base their decisions on fear – fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of being alone – but not her.

As a woman favored by God, she has already faced those fears and survived them. She has already been excluded, overlooked, underestimated, and still she has risen and because of this, she is free – free from the need for approval, free from the fear of standing alone, free from the limitations that keep so many people trapped in lives that don’t fulfill them. But freedom comes with responsibility because when a person is strong, independent, and no longer needs validation from the world, that person will be tested in new ways. People will try to undermine her in an attempt to find cracks in her armor. They will challenge her, not because she is weak but because they can’t comprehend her strength. They will accuse her of being too much, too ambitious, and too independent because they don’t understand what it took for her to become who she is.

A woman favored by God does not apologize for her strength. She does not dim her light to be more acceptable. She does not diminish her power to make others feel more comfortable. She stands firm. She continues forward. She allows her presence to challenge those who need to be challenged, and she does not waste her time trying to be understood by those who were never meant to understand her in the first place.

A woman favored by God is not ordinary, she was never meant to be. She is who God wants her to be and so is being guided, protected, and prepared for something far greater than she can see right now. God Bless the women favored by Him. Amen.